Kids & Dogs- a beautiful bond that needs adult guidance

A strong relationship between a child and a dog is something many families dream of, and yes, it’s absolutely possible. But for that bond to be safe and respectful, it requires adult supervision, guidance, and knowledge. Because it’s never the child’s fault if something goes "wrong" and never the dog’s fault either. It’s up to us adults to ensure that the interaction is safe for both.

Just because we see it everywhere doesn’t mean it’s okay

Social media is filled with “cute” clips where children are hugging dogs tightly, climbing on them, or even sitting on their backs. Many viewers smile, but as dog trainers, we know the truth: most dogs in these videos are showing stress signals. Yawning, licking their lips, turning their heads away, stiff posture, and lifting a paw, these are all signs that could mean that the dog is uncomfortable and asking for space.

A real example: the boy who meant well, but didn’t know better

Last week I went on a class trip, a picnic with my daughter. My Rottweiler Ecco came along. A boy from the class ran up to us, leaning forward, arms stretched toward Ecco’s head. To a dog, this can feel threatening. I gently stopped him and said:

The boy replied, “I’m not afraid of dogs.” And I explained, “It’s not about you being afraid. It’s about the dog possibly being afraid of you when you run towards him with your hands reaching for his head.”

About half an hour later, he did the same thing again. And I calmly explained it again. We simply can’t expect children to know how to behave around dogs. We need to teach them and remind them.

Hugging a dog? Only if the dog wants to.

Many dogs enjoy closeness and affection, but on their terms. A tight hug from someone they don’t know, or when they’re not ready, can feel like being restrained. And that can be frightening. Let’s teach kids to:

• Read dog body language

• Ask for permission before touching

• Wait for the dog to show that it wants contact

Dogs are dogs- not furry little humans

Ecco is big, calm, and friendly, but he’s also a guardian breed. During our picnic, he wanted to play with the children, and he kept a close eye on them, especially his two-legged sister. It’s my job to prepare him for those situations, to help him stay calm and confident. But it’s also my responsibility to protect him from interactions that could feel overwhelming. Every dog, no matter the breed or size, deserves that kind of respect.

Want to help your child understand dogs better?

I’ve created a free e-book: “Respect & Manners around Dogs for Kids (and Adults).” It’s fun, friendly, and easy to understand, with helpful tips from me and Ecco.

❤️ Final thoughts

This isn’t about blaming children or dogs. It’s about making space for safety. When we as adults take responsibility, teach kids to read dog language, and lead by example, we build relationships that are real and lasting.